Lesson 3: Ask for Exactly What You Want
“The answer is always no, unless you ask”
One of the things I adore about my husband is that he was an amazing courter. From our first encounter, he really made it very easy to fall in love.
We had a friend over for dinner the other night, and as I told her our story, I could feel my love for him actually growing. I felt so proud of how he handled every element of our dating and engagement relationship. He paid attention to every detail, he took care of me, he was loving and supportive. How did I get so lucky?
1. Christi Divine, who introduced us— thank you for the millionth time.
2. My husband knows how to ask for exactly what he wants.
In this day and age, people seem to date around a lot. You may be thinking you’re exclusive with someone then BAM! One day, you get a call from their girlfriend (OR WORSE!). When I met my husband, I had been on a lot of dating sites, and I wanted to meet someone, but hadn’t really connected with anyone who wanted the same things I did.
When I met Mo, he was very clear: he wanted to date me and me only, and if I wanted to date him, then I could only date him. He had this conversation with me within a few days of meeting. While I didn’t know if I wanted to be exclusive with him yet, I loved that he was so decisive and was willing to go all-in with me, so I agreed.
Since we are married now, I’ll let you guess how things went from there, but here’s the deal with asking for exactly what you want— I see him do this all the time: in business, in relationships, everywhere. What I admire about it is that I have borrowed it for my own life and have been able to get exactly what I want as well: life coach school, goal weight, new career, opportunities to expand my relationships.
The answer is always no, unless you ask. What do you want exactly? Write it down! I wrote down a million times that I wanted to marry a warm, caring loving man who has a great relationship with his mother. Guess what I got? A warm, caring, loving man with a great relationship with his mother. Ask and you will receive!