What Are You Waiting For?

When I Lose Weight (get the right job, meet the right guy… it all applies)…

I’ll Be More Confident

Be Happy

Buy Cute Clothes

Have you ever said any of these things to yourself? I have!

What if you aren’t taking action on your goals, so you don’t have to do any of those things now?

Why would I say that?

Because weight loss isn’t a requirement to do ANY of the things listed above!

You can be more confident, be happy, and buy cute clothes today.

Confidence and happiness come from our thinking. Clothes come from Nordstrom (or Target, no judgement 😉 ).

Here’s the thing. If you are not managing your mind today at your current weight, then you will wake up at your goal weight thinking and feeling the same way.

Have you ever noticed how people will lose weight and then just want to lose 5 pounds more? It’s because they didn’t prepare themselves for the day they wake up and hit that goal!

So think about what brings you confidence. What makes you happy now?

Notice how it feels in your body. Pick one of the feelings. Think about it.

Is your heart warm?

Do you shoulders feel lifted?

Are you smiling?

Now think about your weight. Think about your job. Your relationships.

What is a believable thought you can have that would get you a step closer to confident or happy or the desired feeling you’re striving for?

One of the thoughts I anchored to when I was trying to lose weight was “I am a badass 123.4 pound woman who takes care of her shit.” When I thought that, I felt confident and vibrating.

I didn’t believe it right away, so I had other iterations I could believe that created feelings of confidence:

  • I am becoming a 123.4 pound woman;
  • I honor my commitments to myself;
  • I show up for my plan;
  • I take action every day– you can see every intention I created in my Massive Action March posts on Instagram and Facebook. I literally had a thought posted every day.

What is a thought that will get you to your impossible goal?

Do you believe it?

What would you be willing to believe today that would be one step closer?

Lessons from the Confidence Boss

Hola everyone and happy April! I am so excited to be launching this 3-article series called Lessons from the Confidence Boss because I know you want to build more confidence, and I want to show you how.

I have to start off by saying that these Confidence Boss Lessons are tools I learned from observing the most confident person I know. Someone I admire and respect who nails it every time: “the huz”, @themoman, my amazing husband, Mo Pardue.

You see, Mo’s birthday is about 10 days away, and I keep thinking how lucky I am to have this amazing man in my life— he does so many things exceptionally well, and my life’s journey has been truly enhanced by our relationship in so many positive ways that I wanted an opportunity to gush on him in public and teach you some things that are pretty freaking relevant to all of us.

Whether you are on a weight loss journey, or are trying to make any change in life— having more confidence is such a value add. I know you are going to get so much from these lessons, so let’s kick off the first one now!

Lesson 1: Dress Like You’re the Boss

In my coaching, I teach the Model, which is our thoughts create out feelings. Let’s say you wake up on a Tuesday, put on some stretchy pants and a baggy sweater and head out to the office. What are you thinking? 

I want to be comfortable? 

I’d like to go unnoticed? 

I feel fat? 

How do you think all of those thoughts will make you feel? 

Like you can take on the world? Not likely!

What if, instead you dressed like THE BOSS. I don’t mean you dress like your boss, nor do I suggest that you dress like Bruce Springsteen, but dress like you are the boss of your life. What would that be like?

I see my husband pull this off exceptionally well, and what he has taught me about dressing like the boss is this:

  1. Spend money on clothes that make you feel good and look great on you. If this is a new concept to you, take deep breaths and brace yourself for what I am going to say next. If you are only buying your entire wardrobe at Target, let me introduce you to the magic of shopping at Nordstrom. Nordstrom is the best place to shop for boss wear because their return policy is ridiculously amazing, their service is fantastic, and they have people who will shop for you. Hello personal shopping service! While a few items from Target here and there are fine, if you can’t remember the last thing you bought NOT from Target, then time for a change.
  2. Invest in tailoring so your clothes fit you. I bought a suit earlier this year, and as usual the legs and arms were long. I have a broad chest and small waist, so suits that fit my shoulders are too large at my mid-section. But, I took advice from The Mo Man, bought the suit, and marched my hiny across the street to the tailors. Two weeks later, the suit fit like a glove. It was absolute perfection. I had to breathe into a paper bag for a few minutes when I found out how much it cost, but every time I wear it, I feel like I own the day!
  3. Get rid of old clothes. This is actually an area where I will give myself a little pat on the back. I am a minimalist at heart, so if something does not fit, is torn, ripped, has a hole, or just sitting in my closet collecting dust, it doesn’t matter how much I paid for it— sayonara! Having a closet full of clothes that don’t actually work for you is frustrating, so make haste and clean that closet out. If you need serious help, contact my fellow coach, Shira Gill, who does amazing closet makeovers,

So here’s your action plan for today. Want more confidence? Clean out the closet! Evaluate your current wardrobe, and book an appointment with a stylist at Nordstrom. Confidence complete!