The Power of Trusting Your Intuition

So many of us are accustomed to going to an external resource to find answers.

We ask our mothers, our bosses, consultants, experts or gurus in search of the right answer.

But what if we are wrong?

What if the answer wasn’t available from someone else. What if the only answer available was within you?

This idea may freak you out, and that’s ok. But consider for a moment the decision you need to make.

Imagine you are on a desert island and no one could help you— you had to arrive at a decision completely on your own. What would you do?

The first thing you may do is second guess yourself and wonder if you’d make the wrong decision.

But what if nothing was wrong. What if it’s impossible to make the wrong choice— there is no right or wrong, there’s only choosing. No judgement. Just deciding.

So many of us are accustomed to not trusting our intuition when it comes to making our own decisions that we allow ourselves to stay stuck in indecision.

But indecision never helps anything or anyone.

Choose today.

When you ask yourself the hard questions, deep down, what does your soul say?

What if you knew the right answer all along?

You have everything you need. Just decide.

And here’s the good news. The more you trust yourself to make the right choice, the more right choices you will make.

You have everything you need.

How Your Brain is Like a Toddler with Scissors

What is a thought in your head right this second?

Now, what’s your intention?

What’s the thought you’re committed to saying to yourself 10,000 times until you believe it?

I truly believe in starting every day with an intention because it gives my brain something to work on.

Sometimes my intention is:

✅ My dream is worth my time, or

✅ In everything I do I choose love, or

✅ I’m committed to figuring this out.

I have hundreds of intentions I’ve made, and I keep making them and here’s why.

Our brains like to play the same tapes over and over and over again.

My brain is a big fan of saying crap to me like:

✅ You’ll never figure this out

✅ You’re wasting your time

✅ Look- ice cream!🤣🍦

✅ You’ve failed before, why keep trying…

See what I mean. 👎

But here’s the good news- thoughts are not who we are.

The problem is that we believe our automatic thoughts even when they don’t serve us, and then we wonder why we are in misery.

Let me say this in another way– that random junk in your head is not you, it’s your brain on auto-pilot.

Imagine a child with a pair of scissors running around.

They think they have a toy– they think it’s for fun. You chase them, and they laugh.

As the responsible adult, you can see this is a recipe for disaster.

The kid needs to be stopped!

They’re in danger!

Now think of your thoughts like that.

Think of your unintentional thoughts like a toddler with scissors.

I heard a quote the other day that “successful people talk to themselves more than they listen to themselves”.

I believe it’s 💯% true because when you are setting an intention you are actively talking to yourself.

You are giving your brain something to focus on.

You are controlling the narrative.

You are wearing down the tape that plays the useless thoughts.

So what’s your intention today?

What are you committed to believing no matter what?

You get to choose. 💕

If you need help figuring out how to set intentions that create the results you want in life, click here to schedule a solution session with me.

Have an amazing day, friends!

Now or Never November

How long have you been wanting THAT goal?

How long have you been “trying” to get to your goal weight?

Has it been days? Weeks? Months? Years? Decades?

What if you just decided for the month of November that it’s NOW or NEVER!

I’m 💯% serious about this because a lot of people like to wait until New Years to set a big goal, but after a few weeks they fizzle out because there’s nothing holding their feet to the fire.

If they started a diet, well Super Bowl has now come and ruined it for everyone.

The Valentine’s Day comes and they “have to” eat all the candy.

Sound familiar?

Here’s the thing.

There will ALWAYS be excuses!

What if you just decided that you were sick of waiting and more importantly that you were tired of living a life that’s less than your full potential?

What if you went all in TODAY to make the change?

What could you get done after 30 days? 60 days? Think of the traction you can make on a new goal by the time the new year comes!

Don’t wait another minute, friends. Your future self is waiting for you to go all in! NOW or NEVER!

If you need help getting started with your goals, click here to schedule a solution session with me.

How to Feel Like a Unicorn

Happy Halloween!

Do you ever wonder why we dress up for Halloween?

While the origins of Halloween costuming date back to the 1500s, stemming from Scottish and Celtic traditions, we no longer dress up to ward of spirits, but more to engage a celebratory mood, and quite frankly for fun.

Putting on a costume, and adopting a new persona gives us freedom to be someone (or something) else for the day.

We get to be cute, or scary, or funny, or sexy.

I decided this year I’d like to feel like a unicorn: 100% magical!

When we put on a costume, we suddenly have permission to act in accordance with the behaviors of our designated character.

But what about every other day of the year?

What if we want to feel more confident, funny, sexy, magical, happy, entertaining, engaging?

What is it about Halloween that gives us permission to be what we want to be when every other day we are hiding in our regular lives?

I’ll tell you what it is…

It’s all about our thinking.

If you want to feel happy, confident, energized, funny, festive, you have to think in a way that makes you feel that emotion.

If it’s not a habit for you, what if you thought of those feelings like a costume.

What if all you had to do is try them on?

What do you think when you’re feeling happy?

This is fun!

I’m having a great time!

I’m so happy!

Life is good!

I’m sure you have your own list of what makes you feel happy, or any other emotion for that matter. But what if you didn’t have to wait to feel that emotion?

What if it was just available to you today.

With or without a costume?

How do you want to feel?

Try it on!

If you need help figuring it out, DM me, I am happy to help you understand how you can start feeling great today!

How to Stop Eating Your Way Through The Holiday Season Like a Psychotic Lunatic!

When I was really struggling to lose weight, I had a love/hate relationship with the holidays because for me, the holidays were ALL ABOUT FOOD!

While I always loved making a jack-o-lantern, and decorating a Christmas tree, as a kid I always looked forward to holiday baking and all the FOOD that suddenly appeared seemingly from out of nowhere.

While I modestly hated the feeling of my clothes getting tighter, I loved the holidays because it was like there was now an allowable reason for me to overeat. All the time.

It’s like as soon as Labor Day was over, and it was officially fall– game on!

If you start to get a gnawing sensation in your gut with the anticipation of the holidays because you’re already seeing the Halloween candy in the stores, then I want to share with you about how to flip this switch, and break out of psychotic lunatic holiday eating for good.

For me, it would all start with the cookies– pumpkin shaped sugar cookies for Halloween, then Halloween candy, then anything baked with pumpkin, then anything with pecans, then anything with chocolate, mint, booze, wine, champagne, and you get it.

By the time New Years Day came around I was hiding from the scale and shamefully shuffling my 10-pound heavier self back to Weight Watchers in my stretchy pants– not just because they were the lightest thing in my closet, but because it was all that fit.

When I really got serious about losing weight, I learned that while it was great to enjoy foods I don’t typically get to have, there was a point where the enjoyment of eating shifted to hating myself and F-it eating, or eating simply because I’d blown it.

There were times when I’d go to a party and because it was “the holidays” I’d use that as a reason to go into a fog. I’d say I was “giving myself the night off”, but the truth was I was just using it as an excuse to disconnect from the discomfort I felt from being a responsible adult who manages her mind.

This is how it would look.

I’d go to a party, tell myself it was “the holidays”, have a glass of wine, a plate or two of appetizers, then another glass of wine.

Then I’d have another glass of wine, pick at more appetizers and have another glass of wine.

By then I had a solid buzz, and even though I was still aware, I’d tell myself that I’d start again tomorrow, and have 10 desserts, and pretty much eat until I was so stuffed that I had to lay on my side to relieve myself of the discomfort.

Eating to this point was never fun, and never made me feel more “in the holiday spirit.”

Instead I’d wake up the next day feeling like a total loser, and eating like a bird for the following week so I could slide back into Weight Watchers the following week without gaining “too much.” Then strategically plan my next weigh in to be the morning of the next holiday party so I’d once again have another reason to recover.

Looking back, I KNOW that using “the holidays” as a reason to overeat was why I always gained weight from September through January. I hated being stuck and feeling like I could never lose weight, but I also loved letting myself off the hook because in the moment it felt good, it felt like relief, and my brain loved it!

You see, our brains love doing what they’ve always done– they are efficient, and when we have been in the habit of doing the same thing for years, making a change takes significant effort. I’ll be honest– it’s hard. But for every part of hard you experience, I can assure you there is 10x the amount of reward on the other side.

So here’s the million dollar question– how do you stop?

First off, you decide what you want more.

What do you want January 1st? We have a whole season, a whole quarter ahead of us. 90 days is all the time it takes for people to make change– even for those of us who are slow 😉

So decide today. Are you going to gain weight, maintain weight, or lose weight?

It’s totally your choice.

Now what will you COMMIT to doing through the holidays to get your result?

(i.e. I will commit to writing down my food every day even if I go over my macros/calories/Points; I will commit to working out 5 times a week; I will commit to eating only one serving of dessert at each holiday event, I will commit to eating only x pieces of holiday candy, etc.)

More importantly what will you COMMIT to NOT DOING during the holidays?

(i.e. I will NOT use a holiday party as a reason to throw in the towel on my whole day; I will NOT use candy at my office as a reason to overeat; I will NOT overeat on any food I can get any other time of the year just because it’s in a seasonal wrapper, etc.)

Now I want to offer a sample intention for you to take with you. You can create your own, but I’m sharing these to get you thinking

I will NEVER quit on my commitment

I am 100% committed to hitting my goal

I am a badass who shows up for every workout

Or my friend, Dave’s saying “F*ck it! I’m going all in!”

I am sharing these with you because we like to let ourselves off the hook with our intentions. We like to say things like “I’ll try to stick to my plan” or “It’s possible to stick to a plan.” While these are good thoughts, there is no accountability. If you are only trying, then some days you may not be trying. Or you could say you tried and it didn’t work.

If you tell yourself I Never quit on my commitment; I AM committed; This is happening; I ONLY work toward results, then you OWN your goal. Create a goal with feeling– something that resonates in your bones, heats your belly, stirs your heart– something that GETS you going.

Honor your commitment, and tell yourself your intention every day, every hour, every minute, or any time you sense your brain wanting to let you off the hook.

Here’s the good news– you can still 100% enjoy every holiday event and lose weight! It’s totally possible. Yes, even holiday parties! Check out my Special Occasion Strategy for more details on how to nail every social occasion from now through New Years!

If you’d love to make progress on your weight goals this holiday season, but want support getting there, book a free 30-minute solution session with me where I can show you exactly what you need to do to get results.

How to Finally Create Lasting Results

I’ve shared a lot over the last 30 blogs about managing your thinking, being positive, believing in results ahead of time, believing before seeing and so on.

And you may be thinking this is all well and good, but it sounds like woo woo or some kind of new age crap– that I’m just telling you to think good thoughts and the world will unfold for you.

If that is what you’re thinking then let’s pause.

Look at your reality right now.

What is the result you are creating?

If you enjoy the results you have then my friend, march on.

However, if something is stirring and you can’t help but wonder if you could be getting a better result by doing something differently then keep reading.

Our results are created by our actions.

Our actions are driven by how we feel.

Our feelings are created by how we think.

So ultimately, the result we have boils down to how we are currently thinking about any situation.

In order to get the new desired result, we have to take different actions.

If we don’t change how we think and feel about these actions then we are using nothing but willpower to drive us to action, and when willpower weans, then what?

Then we go back to doing exactly what we did before because we are stuck on a hamster wheel of thinking.

In order to break out of the hamster wheel and progress forward, we absolutely have to think differently.

Only by thinking different can we feel differently, act differently, and get a new result.

So if you’re leery of dipping your toe into this work because you’re calling it woo-woo.

Decide if you want a new result or not.

If you want something you’ve never had before you’ll have to become someone you’ve never been before.

If the person you want to become is a BA woman who ditches her BS excuses and crushes her goals, well then my friend, then what have you got to lose

If you’d like some help digging into this work, CLICK HERE to schedule a solution session with me. In this session we can dig into what is causing your current result, and create a solution to guide you to achieving your dream come true.

You Have to Kill the Person You Were Born to be to Become the Person You Want to Be

I love musicals!

Last night, the huz and I went out to see Rocketman, and the whole time I was watching it, all I could think about was coaching.

I won’t spoil it for you, but I have to mention one key part.

One of the bandmates from Elton’s early years told him, “You have to kill the person you were born to be to become the person you want to be.”

Pause on this one because it freaking matters.

You have to kill the person you were born

to be to become the person you want to be.


At my core– this moves me.

I wasn’t born to be a life coach.

I wasn’t born to have a college education, or to be an author.

Who were you born to be?

What is you belief about yourself because of how you were born?

Do you have a glimmer of hope that there is more for you? That you just want more from yourself? From your life?

If so, you are going to have to full on murder all of the beliefs you have that are keeping you stuck.

You are going to have to reject the automatic thoughts that keep coming up over and over again. If you need help figuring out how to do this, check out my post: How to Get Unstuck.

Then you will have to start working on new thoughts to believe– thoughts that the you who already has what she wants will think.

You might be thinking, you don’t know what my future self would think, but don’t shut yourself down so quickly. Pause for a minute.

Imagine your future self. Really get a vision for her.

Spend time imagining who she is, what she does, how she moves, dresses, acts, feels, speaks.

Then start thinking about how SHE would speak to herself. Think of the person you want to become, and whenever the old thoughts come up- kill them.

Game over!

And now game on!

If you need help taking this work to the next level, click here to schedule a solution session with me.

How To Build Trust With Yourself

Learning to trust yourself, honor your word, and do things you say you will do is the best gift you can give yourself and others.

It sounds great, right?

Wouldn’t we all LOVE if we stuck to our guns, and as soon as we had an idea to make a change, and made consistent progress until we got to our goal?

But it doesn’t always work out that way because we are human beings, and in order to learn new habits and behaviors, we have to train ourselves to actually DO things differently and BE the person who does the thing we want.

When I wanted to be a woman who had lost 80 pounds, I had to act like a woman who lost 80 pounds, which meant that I had to keep showing up every day even when… even the day after I ate my face off.

If you have quit 10 x, 100 x, 1000 x, you have created a lot of evidence for yourself that you CAN’T do x. But let me tell you something– it doesn’t matter how many times you’ve tried and failed. All that matters is that you keep trying.

Here’s the thing– whenever we look at goals, they can seem impossible because they are so huge! They can be so BIG and MASSIVE we tell ourselves we don’t know where to start.

What if you took a step back, and instead looked at the one thing you needed to change today to get to that goal?

What if instead of looking at your journey as one large goal, you looked at it as several small goals or habits that are manageable? What if you just started with 1 thing? How would that be different for you?

Here’s what you do– start with one goal:

Lose 1 pound

Walk 1 minute

Make 1 dollar

Smoke 1 less cigarette a day

Have 1 less cocktail

Apply to 1 job.

It doesn’t have to be a huge effort, it just has to be SOMETHING. Decide what you will do, and commit to it even when… you don’t feel like it, your kids are sick, your boss yells at you, it’s raining, etc.

It all starts with commitment– even when the commitment is small . When we commit we decide that we are going to go all in. We decide we will stick with it, even when…

You can start today by setting an intention and following it through. Start small, but just get started, then move onto the bigger things. You will not be perfect. That doesn’t matter. Just keep going!❤️

What to Think When You Don’t Believe a Thought

Let’s talk about intentional thoughts. Every day I pick an intentional thought to guide me. This is amazing for two reasons:

1. It sounds great to say intentional thoughts, doesn’t it? And

2. I believe it.

While it’s nice to think good thoughts the key is believing them. I can tell myself good things all day, but if I don’t believe it then it’s hard for me to buy in and fully take the actions required to get to my goal

So what do you do if you do t believe a great thought?

You back up the thought to something you would believe. You may not believe “in everything I do I choose love”, but you may believe

“I am capable of love” or

“I am practicing being loving” or

“It’s possible love is an option for me.”

You will know you’ve got the right thought when you FEEL it! Can you feel it? If not, keep revising the thought until it’s an energy, a vibration and stirs something within you.

Once you find a thought you can believe, then move onto a stronger thought.

Like anything this is a practice, but I can assure you the more you practice talking to yourself and less time you spend listening to random thoughts in your head, the closer you will get to what you truly want.