The truth is that our brains are conditioned to find fault in whatever situation we are in. In psychology this is referred to as negativity bias.
To cope, we create the construct (with our thoughts) that something else (there) is better than what we have (here).
This works for us psychologically because according to Dr.s Lisle and Goldhamer’s Motivational Triad, our brains are motivated to avoid pain, seek pleasure, and conserve energy.
While thinking requires little energy, action requires effort.
So in order to avoid doing things, simply thinking things satisfies our brain.
Further, future-tripping, aka “prospection” allows relief the current situation to “improve psychological well-being.”
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