Lesson 2: If you got it, flaunt it
My husband has absolutely body confidence and I LOVE IT! This past weekend, we were getting ready to go on a hike, and he encouraged me to show a little skin. The sun was shining, it was a gorgeous day, and I was fully prepared to wear leggings, a tank top and a long sleeved sweater.
“Why don’t you put on some shorts?” He asked.
I looked at the weather app on my iPhone and thought “sure, why not?”
As I began changing, he then asked, “Why are you wearing that shirt? Why don’t you just wear your sports bra?”
Ummmmmmm…. Because only super fit people wear tiny shorts and sports bras on hikes, and I don’t consider myself super fit. I said it first to myself in my head and then blurted it out.
“So…” he asks, “why did you do all this work on yourself? To hide? If you’ve got it, flaunt it, and baby, you’ve got it!”
(Insert blushing red cheeks here).
We drove out to our hiking point, I got out of the car with my sweater partly open, and once we got to a huffing and puffing pace up the hill, I pulled off the sweater, and continued my hike to the top of the hill.
At first I was embarrassed and felt like people were looking at me, and then I realized I loved how the sunshine felt on my bare skin, and just leaned into it.
I realized everyone else on the hike had bodies— some ladies wore sports bras, some wore t-shirts, some men wore no shirts. I didn’t care what they did, so I imagined they probably didn’t care what I did either.
As we concluded the hike and drove home I was thinking about how embarrassed I felt heading out, and how relieved I felt going home. Not relieved because we were done, but relieved that I actually didn’t care anymore.
It was such a great lesson for me because I realized that me having confidence about my body was more about what I was thinking about hiking in a sports bra. It didn’t matter what everyone else thought. And that’s so true for any time we put ourselves out there- what matters is what WE think about it— other people will keep on with their day.
So, what is something you could do today to push your confidence forward? How can you challenge yourself to think differently about a situation, and try something new?