Let’s be honest, the Quarantine Fifteen is becoming a real thing, and if you are like most people, you may have had more than one day over the past 6 months where you’ve found yourself plowing through snacks like a maniac.
But if you’ve found yourself in a place where you are realizing that living in your Lulu’s has led you to outgrow your work pants, then I want to share with you some insights that may help you better understand what is really going on.
But first, some woo…
Our throat chakra is the center of communication.
It’s where we speak, we feed ourselves, and express our desires.
In a usual situation if we dislike something we use our voice to acknowledge it, to meet our needs.
But right now that voice may be making requests for needs (for things like getting back to normal life, desiring clean air, walking freely without a mask, traveling wherever you want to go), but due to our current circumstances, the requests are not creating freedom.
We may be voicing our needs audibly or internally, but it’s like the universe is saying, I hear you and no.
When those beautiful words are not allowed to get out in a way that provides relief we are seeking, the emotions we experience get repressed; they go inward and start looking for an outlet within the body.
We all know that a quick resolution for discomfort is eating– particularly eating highly palatable foods that taste really good.
When we eat, we dull out the vibration of emotions because our body switches focus from feeling emotions to gaining pleasure from food.
Essentially, we’ve given our body a new job: disregard emotions– focus on eating.
While eating may feel pleasurable momentarily, it does not resolve the fact that we are still silenced, so what happens?
More eating. We then train ourselves to follow the dopamine hit we get from eating rather than feeling the discomfort of energy running through our bodies.
So what do we do???
- Pause & Breathe: Take a deep breath- nothing has gone wrong. Your body is simply responding to a stimulus it wasn’t prepared for.
- Feel: In your pause you will notice that there may be something else going on– there might be some kind of static, gnawing or discomfort that you want to escape from– if you are super uncomfortable then you are right on track.
- Explain: Take some time in your feeling to explain to yourself what is happening. Do you have tightness in your chest or neck? Is there a pulsing or a fluttering?
- Identify: If this motion in your body were a feeling, what would it be? If you have a hard time identifying emotions and feelings, then use a tool like this wheel below to start identifying what that motion feels like.
Once you’ve identified your feeling, I want you to notice it, and continue to explain it to yourself, and watch the urgency behind the feeling dissolve.
I also want to assure you that it’s acceptable to feel uncomfortable feelings.
The human experience is truly 50% positive emotions and 50% negative emotions.
Feeling negative emotions or uncomfortable feelings doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong. You just have to decide how you want to show up when those feelings surface.
You may not be able to control circumstances, but you can control how you show up for them.
So the next time you notice that you are showing up for an eating event that is not aligned with your goals– mindless snacking in the pantry or eating a whole meal of whipped cream from a can while standing in front of the fridge— take the pause, and go through the steps above.