How to Feel Better

This morning I woke up with a familiar feeling– frustration.

Yesterday I worked through a list of thoughts that come up for me when I feel frustrated and picked the one I noticed that felt right on the mark.

I reminded myself that thought was optional.

Then, I asked myself “how do you want to feel?”

Instead of frustrated, I decided I want to feed confident.

So I asked myself how thinking about my circumstance would make me feel confident?

Then I decided what actions I would take if I were feeling confident instead of frustrated, and made another list.

This morning when frustrated came up for me, I noticed it and reminded myself that it was an optional feeling.

I then reminded myself of what I would think to feel confident.

We get to choose our thoughts and feelings, and if you want to feel better, then you have to not only stop playing the old tape keeping you stuck, but you have to actively choose the better thought.

It takes work.

I’ll be honest that I have to redirect my brain several times during the day. But I’d rather redirect my brain 10,000 times a day to feel better than to stay stuck.

Wherever you are right now, no matter how you’re feeling, I want to invite you to a life where you don’t have to feel that way.

It’s waiting for you.

You just have to choose it.

Even if you have to choose it 10,000 times in a day– you get to choose.

When It’s All THEIR Fault

Life went wrong; it’s all their fault.

Is it true?

Did someone die?

Break your trust?

What are you making it mean?

Are you using it as a reason to stop showing up for yourself?

How long will you let it be their fault?

How long will you let them steal your life?

Sounds deep.

Be assured, the lesson is easy.

Someone else doing ANYTHING is not what causes our pain.

Our thoughts about what they are doing is what causes our pain.

What if you’ve been telling the story that you’re stuck because of THEM? Because of IT?

What if you were able to free yourself by accepting responsibility for your own emotions?

Would you be willing to believe that it’s even possible?

Brave girl, it’s time to move on.

Take back your power.

Take back your thoughts.

Put down your shield, and pick up your sword.

Your crown is waiting.

When You Don’t Feel Like Running…

Me: Let’s run

My Brain: Let’s eat ice cream

Me: Let’s write a blog

My Brain: Let’s watch tv

Me: Let’s agree to be on a panel interview at the university

My brain: Let’s hide

So many times, the things we want for ourselves our brain rejects.

It’s ok- expect it, hear it, acknowledge it, but don’t listen.

You set goals for a reason.

Expect objection.

When You Don’t Feel Like Running…

Do it anyway.

How to Take Action Even When You Don’t Feel Like It!


Let’s say you have an intention of eating healthy meals. You go to the store, you get all the food, you even prep your meals, but by the time lunch rolls around you are not wanting to eat chicken and broccoli (or your lunch of choice). However, you DO want to eat nachos.

You feel deprived. You feel bummed out. You want nachos!!!!


All feelings come from thoughts and sometimes making a shift from thinking “I feel deprived because I want nachos” to “I’m committed to my meal plan no matter what” doesn’t cut the mustard. Sometimes, I just want to eat some freaking nachos, or a milkshake and cookies, or whatever.


What if you thought of that feeling of deprivation or that feeling of being bummed like a heavy rock you had to carry with you in your handbag all day. It’s inconvenient, your bag is heavy, but you can still get through your day, right?


The same principle can apply for when we don’t feel like doing what we should do. Our brain likes to quit if that’s what we’ve done before, but what if we just brought the sucky feeling along for the ride? What if you just carried around that heavy rock?

Don’t get me wrong- you can totally use the model to change your thought here, too, but you don’t have to thought-swap your way out of every problem.
Think about it- what’s the worse that will happen? You eat a healthy lunch? You sit with a feeling of depravation for a few minutes? Guess what happens if you eat the nachos?

You feel deprived in the long run! You deprive yourself of your goal! You deprive yourself of skinny jeans or bikinis on the beach or whatever your goal may be!
I know this may at first be uncomfortable the first or tenth time you try it, but I promise you that being willing to feel discomfort is key to getting to your goal!

Have a great day, friends!❤️