You Have to Kill the Person You Were Born to be to Become the Person You Want to Be

I love musicals!

Last night, the huz and I went out to see Rocketman, and the whole time I was watching it, all I could think about was coaching.

I won’t spoil it for you, but I have to mention one key part.

One of the bandmates from Elton’s early years told him, “You have to kill the person you were born to be to become the person you want to be.”

Pause on this one because it freaking matters.

You have to kill the person you were born

to be to become the person you want to be.


At my core– this moves me.

I wasn’t born to be a life coach.

I wasn’t born to have a college education, or to be an author.

Who were you born to be?

What is you belief about yourself because of how you were born?

Do you have a glimmer of hope that there is more for you? That you just want more from yourself? From your life?

If so, you are going to have to full on murder all of the beliefs you have that are keeping you stuck.

You are going to have to reject the automatic thoughts that keep coming up over and over again. If you need help figuring out how to do this, check out my post: How to Get Unstuck.

Then you will have to start working on new thoughts to believe– thoughts that the you who already has what she wants will think.

You might be thinking, you don’t know what my future self would think, but don’t shut yourself down so quickly. Pause for a minute.

Imagine your future self. Really get a vision for her.

Spend time imagining who she is, what she does, how she moves, dresses, acts, feels, speaks.

Then start thinking about how SHE would speak to herself. Think of the person you want to become, and whenever the old thoughts come up- kill them.

Game over!

And now game on!

If you need help taking this work to the next level, click here to schedule a solution session with me.

How to Get UNSTUCK

Sometimes when I tell my clients their thoughts are creating their results I can practically feel the eyeroll- even through text messages. But, it’s true. I think the best way to explain how this works is to teach you how to get un-stuck.

Step 1: As soon as you wake up in the morning write down exactly what is in your head. Do not filter, do not try to write down nice things, just go full-on primal, brain dump.

Step 2: Notice what thoughts come up that are: negative and circle them so you can see the tape that’s playing in your head.

Step 3: Notice the negative thoughts that come up all the time. What are the thoughts that you carry with you through the day– thoughts you always tell yourself.

Step 4: Ask yourself “Is this useful?” Is filling your brain with negativity all day every day serving you? If it was, I don’t think you’d be reading this article.

Step 5: Stop Focusing on It! I know, sounds easy right? But what if instead of telling yourself “I’ll never get this right” 500 times, you focused on something else: like telling yourself “I’m committed to figuring this out.” You don’t have to go from a negative thought to super positive thoughts. Just stop the negative thought in it’s tracks. As you get accustomed to stopping yourself and thinking a new thought over time you can work on going from “I’m figuring this out” to “I’m becoming a person who completes my goals (or whatever you are endeavoring to do).

So often we get into habits of negative thinking, and think it just happens to us, when in reality, we are the ones creating it. Next time you hear that voice going off that’s telling you “I’ll never get this right” use that as a cue to tell yourself a new thought. Guess what will happen? Your thoughts will change, and you will change, too.

I promise if you make this change you WILL see results.