#2 Mistake People Make on Weight Loss

If you saw my first post on this topic, then you already know the #1 Mistake People Make on Weight Loss. So great, you’re committed; you’ve got a BIG WHY! What’s next? Read on…

“Should I do the keto diet?”

It’s the first thing a lot of people ask me about weight loss.

Here’s what I say, “Is the keto diet going to be fun and sustainable for you long term?”

You might think thoughts like:

  • Absolutely yes! It is how I feel my best.
  • Absolutely not! I just want to lose weight, and why are you answering my question with a question?
  • I don’t know, but I want to lose weight fast and everyone is doing the keto diet.

There is nothing wrong with the keto diet, and there is nothing NOT wrong (double neg, I know 🙂 )with the keto diet. The results created by a keto diet (unless you are using it for therapeutic reasons, and as part of a doctor’s supervised plan) are no different than those created by any other diet where you are in a caloric deficit.

So to answer your question– whether you follow a keto diet or not is entirely up to you. If it makes you feel amazing, do it. If you want to do it because you think you’ll lose weight fast while secretly wishing you could eat all the things, and then dive face-first into a pie the first minute the diet is “over” then consider other options.

Mistake #2 = Extremism

Extreme dieting is purposeful for very few people in this world, and those people are typically under medical supervision. If you are just a regular human who wants to look great in a bathing suit or feel confident when you’re naked, then extremism isn’t required; commitment is required, but not extremism.

We choose extreme approaches because we want fast results. So, let me fill you in on a little secret.

The key to weight loss is eating in a calorie deficit.

The key to weight loss maintenance is keeping weight off for the long-term, which means losing it in a way that is sustainable and makes sense.

The shocking statistics about weight regain exist because people like to use extreme measures to lose weight, and then when they get to their goal, go back to what they were doing before. How does this help?

It doesn’t!

The Biggest Loser results are not real life. We know this because when the show’s over, the contestants regain weight! We see people on television who lose 100s of pounds in an hour, and we get pissed off for not dropping 5 pounds after a single workout.

We compare our every day journey to someone else’s hilight reel, or before and after photos. When you see before and after photos, look at the time stamp. Typically months, years pass between the photos. You know what that person did on the days between the before and after, they had to live their life, and do the work.

When I work with clients, the first thing we decide on is a protocol they can stick with.

I have clients who elect no flour no sugar. When they have a specific reason compelling them to follow that protocol, we go with it.

For example, my mother has epilepsy and finds that eliminating sugar from her diet has stopped her migraine headaches. She has no desires to overeat sugar because (for her) she sees the connection between eating sugar and a negative result in her life.

I have clients that do intuitive eating, and simply understand that having the accountability of a coach, and writing down what they eat helps them make healthier choices.

I have clients who do flexible dieting, and track macros so they can include foods they want.

When I notice that I client thinks they want to follow a specific protocol, but they aren’t following it, we make a change.

I think this is important to mention because I’ve worked with a lot of people who are in the cycle of keeping the reigns super tight (eating very low calories, eating very restrictive foods, eat only from a food list) and then have all-out binges.

This was something I struggled with myself for years! I kept thinking the paleo diet and elimination diets were the cure-all because I’d read so many great things about them, but I would try them, and have such terrible cravings for all the things I wasn’t “supposed to have” and so I would literally binge my face off. I was so embarrassed and ashamed, and created a very untrusting relationship with myself and food.

I share this because I’ve had clients come to me who are exactly in the same space. Their intentions are right, but their plan isn’t working for them.

When we reintroduce foods that were previously off-limits then there is always a huge sigh of relief. Making healthy choices that work for you is an incredible freedom because it puts YOU in the driver’s seat.

When you’re following a protocol that someone hands you because it worked for them– that’s great for them, but every body is different.

So before you sign up for the next juice fast, cleanse, IF-a-thon, ask yourself, “is this a long-term sustainable plan I can live with for the rest of my life?” If not, then move along.

Having a sustainable plan makes this process fun and enjoyable. You don’t have to be extreme to get results; you only have to be consistent.

If you are struggling with extremism, and are interested in looking at a new approach, click here to schedule a solution session with me.

#1 Mistake People Make on Weight Loss

Head’s up- this is the first of a 3-part series on weight loss.

I failed at weight loss many times.

I’ve lost 80 pounds, but I didn’t lose it overnight.

I made many mistakes along the way, but here’s the good news: I got to my goal anyway.

So here is #1 mistake I see people make when they are trying to lose weight…

Their WHY isn’t bigger than their WANT

Every time I’ve been serious about losing weight and I’ve made massive progress it’s happened because I’ve been all-in, 100% committed to the goal: I had a HUGE WHY!

In my coaching practice I talk with clients a lot about commitment because there is a HUGE difference between wanting something and committing to it.

If I want something, that’s great! I wanted to be thin when I was over 200 pounds. But wanting is just a thought, just an idea.

Commitment is different. Commitment means that I am taking consistent action to get to my goal even when...

Even When… It’s cold outside and I don’t want to stay in bed instead of workout;

Even When… I went away for the weekend and didn’t feel like going to the grocery store to have healthy food at home;

Even When… My boss yells at me;

Even When… I’m stressed out;

Even When… I have a fight with a family member;

Even When… I’m bloated…

You see where I’m going here. Even When is EVERY EXCUSE we give ourselves to let ourself off the hook to our commitment.

So how do you know you’ve got a strong enough commitment? How do you know that you are committed and don’t just want something?

You know you are committed when your WHY is bigger than your WANT!

You have to have a BIG WHY because I’ll be honest– there are days when you will WANT:

  • All the Chips
  • All the Ice Cream
  • All the Donuts
  • To eat because it’s your period
  • Stress Eat
  • Emotionally Eating
  • Eat all the things and all the flavors, textures, etc.

You have to be willing to allow the WANT urges.

You have to have a compelling reason to keep you focused even when the going gets tough.

When I was at various stages of my weight loss journey I envisioned different events to stay focused on my goal:

  • An image of myself crossing a finish line ;
  • An image of me running on the beach in a bikini;
  • An image of being on a stage, posing in a bikini competition.

All of these events required commitment.

So before you get started, truly ask yourself why this all matters? Why do you want to lose weight? And are you willing to allow all of the urges to come up and be there?

Are you willing to be committed even when?

What is your BIG WHY?

If you are, and you are ready to take this work to the next level, you can book a mini-session with me here: Wendy Pardue Solution Session